Marriage, the good, bad and ugly
There is humor, seriousness and evil in marriage. It can be fantastic with love or an inferno of incompatibility. Being in love is an exciting experience. Thrilling fireworks bursting into magnificent colors. After a length of time the novelty of love may possibly dissolve and develop into a fiasco.
Dating couples do not think about the duration of living together for a lengthy period of time. In a realistic sense, the gaiety hoopla possibly bursting into fiery monsters of horror (beware of lovingly deceit.) Like the western movie, “The Good, Bad and Ugly.” A beautiful Venus flytrap plant can digest an insect unsuspectingly. The bug smells the sweet nectar on the plant and crawls into the jaws clamping shut and gruelingly consumed.
Personalities can change! When dating, she practically sits on his lap in the car. After marriage, she practically hangs out the car door. Marriages start like a fresh picked banana off the tree. It is green and crisp, gradually becoming yellow and ripe. After a period of time, a brown deterioration develops and spoilage (infidelity.) You go to the store and get another banana. There are God blessed fifty year marriages with “patience” dealing with plenty of irregular surfaces and rough edges. You realize how strong the love was when one passes on and your heart is traumatically broken and taken with them.
The beginning of wedlock is talk to fun and passion. The end is talk of doctors, aches and pains. Some husbands treat their dog better than their wife. Some wives give more attention to their iPhone than their hubby. Marriage creates headstrong habitual arguments often and melts the amorously relationship away. Successful marriages are like hitting the bullseye at 100 yards with a bow and arrow. A man getting a witch or angel and a woman getting a devil or archangel is chance. Women can be like fruit, a peach or a lemon. Men can be like the weather, a sunny day or a rainy day. Finding the right mate is like purchasing food in a grocery store. It could be tainted and you would not know until eaten and getting food poisoning. God given patience and positive communication is the strength of a lasting marriage. The danger of patience is bottling up the frustrations until the pressure causes an explosion. A good sense of humor is an ideal preventative. Happy alliances are not fruitful by slamming doors and vulgar talk but strategically negotiating to resolve problems. Control freak husbands are of distress. Accepting each other’s habits is absolutely essential. Flaming quarrels can’t be put out with vocal gasoline. In-law quality is an ideal support for successful unity.
Marrying far too young is comparable to making a foolish bet in a game of chances at a casino (Hokey-sham passion.) Living with one another and what do you get? Another day of deeper in debt (over-spending.) Men can marry magicians. She makes money disappear before his eyes. The old saying, “Two can live as cheaply as one.” Not today, one lives expensively as two. A man being single and getting a parrot to teach it what you want to hear would be keen-minded. No nagging. Hubby’s too much time at the club bending his elbow and her credit card attack is insecure. Both have the right to go off like a rocket. Fighting is inevitable. If at all possible, recalling fond memories is the cement between the bricks and removes the kink from the fire hose when a verbal fire seems evident. Eventually, you have those sweet, lovable little ones that can have you climbing the walls and maybe evolve into tormenting teens. Pointing fingers at each other doesn’t help the problem referencing your turn to settle their misconduct. Collaborate with teamwork. Infidelity can arise creating heartache. Divorce and child support can be brutal. Ex-husband/wife is as common as x-ray in a hospital. The divorce rate is high. It seems that couples get married to get divorced. Bad marriages are like an automobile without gasoline, it’s not going anywhere.
A young man wanted to be a professional boxer. His perceptive father told him if he wanted to fight for a living, get married. Some wives are mediocre at cooking. The best use they can do with a skillet is whacking their critical husband in the head when he gripes about the flavor pretend you like it and please her. The song by Johnny Cash, “Love is a burning flame. I fell into a burning ring of fire,” is typical on occasion. Marriage can be a special time with supersensible loving sound mind and rock hard patience. Marriage is comparable to the realistic novel by Leo Tolstoy, “War and Peace.”
Gary Shaporka is a resident of Jefferson Township.